Friday, December 23, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Global care: a sincere invitation

Short story: We are committed to a ministry of global care, (and we would like to invite you to partner financially with us in this ministry.)

 

Seeing Joey and his fiance, Laura G, planning their wedding* sends us hurtling back into the past. (Among other things, I remember being blissfully unaware we were having that effect on "the older generation" at the time!) *The date has been set for July 28, 2012 in Boulder.

 

The lines have fallen to us in pleasant places. Part of that is our work. We love global ministry and we love to care for people so much! People don't always see our hearts this way, but many do, and we like it when people see that in us, too.

 

It's not just a McJob to us. Over the years I've certainly struggled with wanting to be somebody else or have some other role. But global care is something we love so much we'll even raise money to do it …and, not or, …live with less.

 

When I think about my own journey, it is landmarked by conversations of the heart. Sure I've studied and even taught, and Laura puts me to shame with her disciplined habits of daily committed reading and reflection, but most of all it is intimate conversations that have marked our journeys.

 

I remember…times of loneliness when someone sought me out every week to meet with me, not just in the word, but in the gym or in the mountains, times of growth when someone coached me not just about my performance but my person, times of grief when someone met me where I was even though it was not fun, and times of sharing intimately, sometimes unexpectedly, with so many people, but especially those with whom this became a habit!

 

Isaiah said, "Is anyone thirsty? Come and drink--even if you have no money. Come, take your choice of wine or milk--It's all free!" That's how we have been loved and that is also how we want to love others.

 

What are the intimate conversations you remember in your own journey? We hope you will find much to celebrate as you remember where you have been and look forward to what is yet to come!

 

With love in the one who keeps us, Steve and Laura

 

PS We invite you to give to our ministry by sending a check to TEAMworld.org with a note saying it's for "the Spinella's work" or you can go to http://teamworld.org/give/ways-to-give-through-team/team-us-ways-to-give.html for other ways to give, including online. And for you who are and have been our financial partners in this ministry, thanks again for choosing us as your partners!


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mail: 9685 Otero Ave, Colorado Springs, CO 80920
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Saturday, December 17, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Waiting on the father and the father's tables (spoiler near the end)

Turkey was a great place to visit. The friends we spent time with were very gracious, welcoming us into their lives and communities. We even had opportunities to visit with a few local people and enjoyed those conversations, too. Still, after all the travel, we're also glad to be back in Colorado. We should stay here more often ;-)! We're looking forward to spending Christmas here with Sarah, Joey, and Robby, and whoever else shows up!

First, the waiting on the father: Going to a place we hadn't ever visited and meeting friends that we knew little or not at all, I was impressed that I needed to take an attitude of waiting to see what opportunities presented themselves instead of trying to make things happen. You know, I got a lot of chances to do that--and wouldn't you know it, I also got to watch a lot of things happen without being in a position of engineering them--but rather in a very dependent position most of the time! It was perhaps one of my greatest takeaways from the trip, other than the meaningful relationships with precious people.

Next, the waiting on tables: Laura was investing herself in a passel of precious kids, for many hours a day, during the training event we joined. And among other things, I got to recruit and lead a team in putting breakfast on the table every morning and then also clearing breakfast away. You know, that turned out to be a great small group experience as we did some early morning rising, kitchen bussing, and then ended up with our own group to commit the day back to the father before breakfast started. There were other great opportunities to serve and some of them even involved holding babies! Personally, we think we have great potential as grandparents, but we're willing to be patient.

In the midst of these life adventures we got to hear stories from people living in historic cities like Damascus, Istanbul (previously Constantinople), Cairo, and Izmir (once known as Smyrna). We wait for opportunities like these, and as best we can, we come alongside in the journeys of people crossing language and cultural boundaries with an attitude of compassionate love and sincere respect.

Oh, yeah, and we got at least one more opportunity to wait tables, when we "happened" to be in Houston last Saturday. That was the day our son Joey proposed to Laura G and she said "yes!" Since we were there, we got to run out and buy food for a little reception with some of their college friends at the end of their most exciting day. They're looking to late July in Colorado :-)

I plan to write one more email update before Christmas inviting you to partner in our ministry. This has been a year of learning and adjustment for us, but we are thankful and happy to do the ministry of love and care that the father has placed before us at this time. Each year has its share of challenges and delights, how will you be finishing your year? Do you have something to celebrate?

With love in the one who keeps us! Steve and Laura

PS Just a note to say that we delight in walking with the father of the universe is and certainly love to call him by name. At the same time, we are aware that the emails we write may not only be read by anybody in the world and get posted or forwarded different places, but also get searched by automated processes looking for certain words. That's why I try to avoid some of the most special words we use in the family when I write these email updates. I hope you understand and won't be frustrated by that. In the international community there are a bazillion ways people approach these issues, and we try to respect all of them. This was especially true on this latest trip.

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Sunday, November 06, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Visiting Turkey

As I write we're on our way to Turkey. This is our first visit to Turkey and we're excited to be going, interested to see what life is like there, and of course looking forward to making authentic and encouraging connections with the folks we meet.

This trip was scheduled before we went to Taiwan, planned while we were in Taiwan when we extended our stay, and coming very quickly on the heels of our return. We got back less than three weeks ago and we'll be in Turkey, if our plans go as expected, more than three weeks, returning at the very end of November.

We'll spend at least a day in three of Turkey's largest four cities, but most of our time at a training event located in a very historic part of Turkey, near a site that is said to have once been a coastal city of 250,000--imagine organizing that without electricity, mass transit, or even flush toilets--but they did have a public toilet that was reportedly used by dozens at a time! (But I digress.)

From all I've read, Turkey is a very friendly place, and also a very popular resort destination, especially for people from Europe, the Middle East, and Russia. And while they do have earthquakes, the one that recently made the news is at the far end of this large country from where we'll be, so if we hear reports, they should be at least second hand.

I'll not write too much more as there is so much we don't know and can't really speak to, but we hope to learn a lot and enjoy some good relationships and adventures. Please keep us in mind!

We may be able to write back some, but probably not too much, so have a happy Thanksgiving if you're celebrating that, and in any case may we all enjoy a grateful spirit! And yes, we've already been warned to take some pictures!

In him who keeps us, Steve and Laura (en route!)

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Sunday, September 25, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Dithering away the hours to good health in Taiwan

Actually, the recovery seems well under way as reflected by my ability to joke about it! In fact, we're enjoying Taiwan so much we're going to stay another three weeks ;-). At this point we probably ought to say out loud that we're not just doing medical tourism but actually spending a lot of time meeting with friends, fellow international servants, and so forth, with a goal of doing global care right here in Taiwan. 

Given our history of living here almost 15 years (until last December,) you might imagine that we still have pretty good connections and what's more, we actually know our way around pretty well. In fact, we just got asked to meet the arriving participants for an international TEAM conference at the airport--that conference is the endpoint of our planned stay here and we're delighted to be able to stay longer and join our TEAM ministry staff who will gather here in Taiwan that last weekend.

For me, highlights of our visits have included...
-spending time with my sister and her family--in fact, we like it so much we never moved into the guest apartment we rented to use this last month. One day just led to another. Did you know that the year and a half Carolyn and I both lived in Taiwan was the first time we've lived in the same city since I was a first year teacher and she was in boarding school for 11th grade in 1978-79 (in Rubio, Venezuela!)
-saving all that money on a hernia operation, done by a doctor 2 miles from where we used to live in Taichung who claims he could be in the Guinness Book of World Records for most hernia surgeries.
-getting caught up, praying for, and celebrating with people whose lives we have shared in the past that we "left behind" when we left Taiwan last year.
-doing guest supervision and consulting, hearing stories of God at work, and encouraging the counselors at the two Center for Counseling & Growth offices in Taichung and Taipei. Today we also get to participate in and share with a gathering of people with a passion to care for m's from Taiwan serving internationally.
-standing alongside both experienced and more newly arrived m's who are ministering in Taiwan, hearing stories and sharing stories of the international ministry journey.
-watching Laura's face light up the first time we rode bikes up into the mountains of Taiwan. That was the morning of my surgery. She has gone many times alone since, but I have actually gotten on a bike now too, only riding in "flat places."

Yours from the far side once again, in the one who keeps us, Steve and Laura

PS Please remember us as we also plan a trip to Turkey in November. As you can imagine, it's much harder to plan and do travel to someplace we've never been than to someplace where we still have rapid transit cards and get asked how long we've lived here. Our time between trips will be cut short by this extended stay in Taiwan. And can you believe those airline change fees? It cost $550 to change our return date even though the ticket price was the same!

BTW, if you are in Taiwan, we'll be in Taichung this next week, then transitioning down to Heng Chun in the south around 10/4 where we'll guest host at the Oasis retreat center, through about 10/13, before heading all the way north for the TEAM conference. And we'd love to see you wherever we are, or come your way if we can fit it in.

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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Medical tourism and international ministry

The short story is that we arrived in Taiwan, saw a hernia surgery specialist the next day, and I had the hernia repaired surgically two days later, staying overnight and being released the next day. That was Sunday a week ago and since I've been on the healing journey, gradually becoming more mobile, less inflamed, and recovering from a few minor side effects. The whole process was covered by Taiwan's national health plan at an out-of-pocket expense of under $150 US. You can see the doctor's website at http://www.hernia.com.tw/, but if you don't read Chinese you'll need to use google translator or something like I did.

I didn't feel at first that this was very good material for an email update, because it is after all a bit medical (well, I was going to say "gross.") But someone who has lived in Taiwan longer than I have recently noted that it seemed unusual to him that I would choose to do surgery here when I could have done it in the US. After all, most of the savings ultimately goes to the TEAM health plan, not to me personally. This got me to reflecting on how the medical systems represent a very significant part of cross-cultural adaptation, and remembering that this was not an easy part of our own journey in coming to Taiwan. If you're interested, you can keep reading… (Otherwise, you can skip to the last two paragraphs now.)


In the early days most of our health crises were with our young children, who of course continued to get sick after we came to Taiwan. Not knowing any local MDs and finding the Taiwan systems of care bewildering, in the early days each sickness was an adjustment crisis. Sure, ordering a pizza over the phone can be a crisis, too, but somehow the stakes always seem higher when someone in the family is sick, especially during the part where they're getting worse, before they start getting better again, or when they seemed to be getting better, but then had a relapse.

One nightmare was Joey having asthma crises, which we didn't know how to manage until later. Another time I had intense vertigo with nausea, from which I only recovered much more slowly than I thought proper. It was even a crisis when Sarah got a loose tooth, which we thought was permanent, but turned out to be a baby tooth, which we then learned is called a "milk tooth" in Taiwan.

Each time we drew on whatever resources we could, including local MDs, friends in the US with a medical background, and "Dr. Bob," a pediatrician who lived 8 hours away across the mountains in Taiwan, but always was kind to take our calls and provide some advice at a distance. Once we even got his personal attention when Joey got wounded on the basketball court during a retreat and Dr. Bob accompanied us to the local hospital where he was stitched up. Sometimes we waited to get medical attention until we could return to the US, although that has its own frustrations.

As the years went by, though, we were beginning to understand and develop familiarity with the local systems. One friend went with me to the hospital and helped me work through the clinic system so I could be seen by a specialist. Another friend recommended a family practice doctor near my home that began to manage our ongoing medical care in a way that inspired confidence, including referrals when needed or talking us down when we didn't really need more care. And, between visiting others in the hospital, getting medicines from MDs and pharmacies, and navigating the various health challenges that came our way, we gradually came to understand and accept the medical system in Taiwan.

To be honest, there are now some things I like better about Taiwan (low cost and rapid care) and some I like better about the US (better discussions with the MDs, more thorough evaluations), but I have basically come to believe both systems work somewhat well most of the time. Also, knowing what to expect definitely helps in whatever system.

So when I came to Taiwan this time, I knew God would have to be gracious for us to find a surgeon while we were here, I knew it would help to have some personal referrals and I knew who might be able and willing to help, and I knew they wouldn't give me nearly as much pain medication as in the US, but that Laura would spend the night in the hospital room on a cot nearby. (And she knew she'd be more comfortable if she brought a backpacking foam pad and a sheet!)

God was gracious. The first day we visited the hernia specialist, and he had had a cancellation for surgery two days later so I was able to get on the schedule right away instead of in a month. I know in the US the surgeon probably wouldn't have given a 4pm Saturday surgery appointment, but this was Taiwan. We completed the afternoon by going by my family practice doctor, paying another $6 US copay, and getting his take: "At the hospitals, they give the interns and residents the hernia surgeries because they need to practice, so you're better off going with someone who has done 10,000 of these as his stitches and technique will be better."

Instead of having a complete set of hospital garb, I put on the gown over a t-shirt and boxers, and they gave me the muscle relaxant and installed an IV shunt downstairs before walking me up to the surgery floor. Once I was on the table, they strapped me to a cross, and shortly thereafter I fell asleep. I really don't know whether they stuck to just using local anesthesia or if they made an exception for the wimpy foreigner! In Taiwan they don't feel a need to tell you all these things.

A couple extra-strength Tylenol for the pain and the next morning I was "good to go," at least from the MDs perspective. When I was in too much pain to get on the examining table he just redressed the wound while I was standing up and sent me on my way. When I came back five days later to get the stitches out, he said, "You were in a lot of pain last time!" (Yes, I'm just another North American wimp at best, maybe not even that!)

I went in to my family doc again today (another $6 US copay), got some steroid cream for the rash from the heat and my allergic reaction to the tape, and I think I'm well on my way to a slow recovery. Yes, I'm even off the Tylenol (and the ipbuprofen I was sneaking in between for the first several days J).


What is my take away? First, that our trust needs to be in God, no matter who we call on for help in this world, and we do need help. Second, there really isn't a first, second, and third world anymore. There are a variety of models and standards of care, and people in any given country can receive both good and bad care on any given day. Third, costs vary for many reasons, and not all of them are relevant to us personally. As a global nomad, sometimes I pay more for things, and sometimes I pay less. And we all like a good deal, but none of us like it when things go wrong, which they can most anywhere.

I hope if you've read this far that you've enjoyed this journey in medical tourism, though perhaps it's more like going back home for a surgery given that I've actually lived longer in Taichung than I ever lived in any other one place. It looks like this medical journey is on its way home and Laura and I are shifting our attention to enjoying Taichung a bit, re-engaging dear friends and coworkers, and soaking up a little time with my sister and her family whom we left behind here when we moved back to Colorado. Unfortunately, she is biking alone as I am restricted to "biking in flat places only" until about the time we leave.

Regarding the hernia, we're both grateful to the US MD who noticed it and the Taiwan MD who stitched it. And may God give you grace in your own journeys of adjustment and adaptation, wherever they may take you!


Yours in the one who keeps us, Steve and Laura


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Sunday, August 28, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Comparing hurricanes and typhoons

I can't resist sharing this...
The current 43m/s winds of Nanmadol are about 96mph, or greater than Hurricane Irene. The tracking chart currently shows it crossing northern Taiwan approximately when we're scheduled to land Wed night Taiwan time, so we'll be watching it with interest.

Since we fly through Japan, probably the flight will leave SFO as scheduled and if we can't fly in to Taiwan as scheduled we'll be forced to spend a night in Japan. But with typhoons and hurricanes, who knows?! Not me. 

Maybe we should pray for people on both sides of the world...




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Wednesday, August 24, 2011

[TEAMspinella] New house, new projects, new glasses, new hernia, new...

It's been a rather unusual summer for us. Instead of traveling to the US, we've been traveling in the US and hosting guests when we're not traveling. Now we're getting ready to head back to Taiwan for a month next week (8/29--9/27). More about that below. 

Here's a brief recap of the summer:
-"emerging adult" kids visit in May from Texas, overlapping as they juggle their schedules
-closed on a house and moved in starting May 31 and continually since (or so it seems!)
-traveled most of June, doing a first "prototype" marriage event in partnership with ELIM in Michigan (went great! 10 couples from missions and ministry with >30 to >50 years married); later participating in a first global care team retreat with our TEAM working group, gathered from around the world.
-came back to a houseful of people waiting for us, enjoyed some visits, did some home repairs, and got back on an airplane to Chicago for...
-REAP, TEAMs annual gathering of staff from around the world, catching approximately 20-25% each year, where we met with people both formally and informally for 5 very full days
-returned to CO after volunteering to be bumped off two airplanes and began a round of medical appts--eye, MD, dentist along with everything else
-hosting more m's in our new home, getting a second visit from Sarah, saying goodbye to Robby again, and hearing about Joey's summer from afar

I mention the MD appts because it was there, in a new doctor's office, that I discovered I am the proud owner of an inguinal hernia which requires immediate repair. Trying to come to terms with this, I asked what this might cost--well, I didn't get an immediate answer, but my guess it could be over $1000 was a bit off. After some research and prayer, we began some international conversations that lead to the decision to go back to Taiwan for some ministry, relationships, AND medical tourism--e.g., hernia surgery.

We're excited about the chance to return to Taiwan and connect and reconnect with people in ministry there. But we would not have expected such a weak reason to send us there. Yet God seems to be opening the way--the $1600 in travel vouchers from being bumped will help, the invitation to come back from TEAM Taiwan is a deep encouragement, and our permanent residence, which we had to renew right before we left in what seemed an imposition at the time, may even result in our medical care there being covered by the national health plan  in Taiwan. (If not I am told the cost will still be less than 50% of the $8000 estimate I got for surgery in Colorado Springs?!)

So please remember us in these times. Here are some key requests:
-safety in travels and good connections, not just with flights etc, but with people that matter in ways that show God's love
-ministry from here in Colorado, not just when traveling, via skype, visits here, authentic presence, and global care projects
-needed funding, in these uncertain times we still depend on God and ministry partners for our ministry expenses and living allowance
-wisdom about where to contribute. Later this year we are praying about a trip to Turkey and we are looking for a place and funding where we could schedule another marriage event in the US northeast.

With love in the one who keeps us,
Steve and Laura

PS I know this isn't good email etiquette, but I'm really embarassed it's been since May that I've written an email update. I hope you've had a busy summer also filled with lots of good things and that you've hardly missed the updates. (I wrote this PS first, then I put it at the end :-)

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Tuesday, July 12, 2011

[TEAMspinella] What's so bad about that?

Les Hirst sent me this article*, saying that returning m's need to read it. I think that must mean that he likes it, and I like Les.

Actually Laura and I had a similar thought before we left Taiwan. What if God sent us to work at Safeway? Since she's good at remembering prices, she could run the cash register, and since I'm good at packing, I could sack groceries. And you know, there we would be embedded in a community of people, both coworkers and customers, and what's so bad about that?

But instead we're here in Colorado labeled as global care consultants, embedded in a community/company of global workers, surrounded by many other communities both local and international, and what's so bad about that? Sure Colorado is beautiful, although it has been unusually rainy lately. The humidity was actually over 50% today! (It never got that low in Taiwan!)

And guess what? Most of the same things that were hard for us in Taiwan are still hard for us. Speaking for myself, that would be things like feeling like an outsider, procrastinating, and taking offense when I feel rejected. Fortunately the same God who loved us in Taiwan still loves us here, and the same God who provided for our needs there is still providing here.

I guess that's something worth talking about...

*http://www.internetmonk.com/archive/but-then (The article, in case you can't follow the link.)

PS In case you're wondering we're back from our travels and retreats, which went very well. Next up is TEAM's gathering of international staff on home assignments which they call REAP the last week of July. BTW, this update was also published on wordpress at http://wp.me/pq2yu-10

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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Mi casa es su casa

It's hard for us to believe, but we have actually made a contract to purchase a home just around the block from Laura's parents. It is a nice two-story, 3 bedroom home on a small lot in a very typical suburban neighborhood in northern Colorado Springs with an unfinished basement—finishing it will give us a nice hospitality suite a bit like an extended stay hotel so we can put up more guests J.

 

We're excited a bit, I guess, as we keep walking by it on our evening walks. As we considered finding a home, we realized that Laura has not really been able to pick a home to settle in for a very long time. So this was her time. It was fun watching her consider different possibilities, weigh the value of closeness to her parents over against different home features, and imagine what it would mean to live in her own home.

 

As we looked, we laughingly said it would be hard not to imagine being able to live in any home we looked at after almost 15 years in a 1200 sq ft apartment made to Taiwan standards. Seriously it is our hope that we will be able to use this home as a place to welcome people in Jesus' name and honor God with it, just as we sought to do with the apartment God provided for us in Taiwan, and the homes we lived in before that.

 

We are anticipating a closing date of May 31 and more settling in the days after that. Meanwhile we have all three emerging adult kids here this week, and we're soaking up the family time. Fortunately the weather finally broke today and we were able to do a beautiful mountain hike. It's been a dry winter and that showed, but Colorado is still a very beautiful place. It also has a Costco. (This was a big thing in Taiwan, where Costco showed up in our city just a year or two before we left.) The kids remember stopping for hot dogs when we were traveling between cities on their school breaks in Taiwan, but they don't remember seeing Pikes Peak from the parking lot—and in fact the parking lots in Taiwan are built over and under the stores, not outside them!

 

One thing you might be able to help us with…we're doing a "prototype" international ministry marriage event in mid June (all the way up in the thumb of Michigan!) As we prepare for that, we're trying to better understand what m's are looking for in a marriage event. If you have any experience as an m, or even if you don't, would you take this survey?

 

Take the international marriage survey now!

 

If you follow this link, you'll find a simple survey about marriage events. It will probably take you 10-15 minutes. Would you please fill it out? You are also welcome to forward it to anyone else you think would have valuable input. And the results will be available to share with anyone who is interested.

 

Thanks for your time and input!

 

With love from the one who keeps us, Steve and Laura


PS In case that link above didn't work, here's the actual address: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/mcouple


Steve and Laura Spinella
9685 Otero Ave, Colorado Springs, CO 80920
719.528.1702, cell 719.355.4809, Laura cell 832.755.4261
TEAM, PO Box 969, Wheaton, IL 60187, 800 343-3144
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Thursday, April 21, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Settling in, not just settling

We're back in Colorado Springs and April is already rolling by. It is definitely a big adjustment to be back, and I can say it gives me no pleasure to say "I'm an m'n'ry living in Colorado." Still, we are glad to be back and while we know adjustment will take a long time, we are beginning that journey. Among other things, we are part of a new small group through our church for empty nesters and have now been meeting with these folks since January. We are enjoying very much being closer to Laura's parents, but we're seriously considering housing options that would keep us close but take us out of the house here. At this point, they don't really need us in the house and Laura is yearning for a place to settle. Please remember us in this part of our journey.

Speaking of settling, we mean to actively choose to stay, flourish, and contribute where God has now put us. I'm realizing this is going to take some energy on my part. It is too easy for me to survive without really belonging to the community in which I find myself. So I have been asking myself some questions. Things like, "Who do I choose to spend time with when I'm not working?" "Where do I find my identity and sense of belonging to community?" "What does it mean to love and respect those around me as unique people of value, regardless of whether they share my various perspectives, world view, and orientation?" "Who do I want to be like?" "Who do I enjoy?" It might surprise you, but I'm not sure I've ever felt at liberty to even ask questions like this in my life until now. So I have a lot to learn. With the same love that the father loves me, so also I would like to love my neighbors.

Regarding my work, I use skype more to talk to people around the world, including a monthly conference call with our global care team that connects Spain, Thailand, Pennsylvania, Minnesota, Illinois and now Colorado. I am also working on a few projects I find interesting. The two that are hottest at the moment are an initiative to deal with sexual purity challenges in the global ministry community and a marriage experience to help couples in international ministry through rest, reflection, and renewal. We did two major trips in the first quarter, one to Thailand and one up and down the midwest in the snow and bitter cold. April and May should be a bit quieter. I've got a couple short trips this month. Next month we'll host our kids for varying amounts of time.

In addition to working with me some of the time, Laura is particularly interested in connecting with internationals, including refugees and students, here in Colorado.

Thanks for caring for us, communicating with us, and partnering with us in these emerging ministry roles.

With love in the one who keeps us, Steve and Laura

Steve and Laura Spinella
9685 Otero Ave, Colorado Springs, CO 80920

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Saturday, March 19, 2011

[TEAMspinella] loving the brothers and sisters

We just had a great consultation, from my perspective anyway, who knows what is great in the eyes of the king*, but anyway, I'm the one writing here, so we just had a great consultation.
 
We were meeting in Thailand as a group of counselors and caregivers in the Chinese world, and this time the group was weighted more thoroughly to people from the largest country than ever before. Really the biggest thing I saw happening was people meeting people and encouraging each other as brothers and sisters.
 
In this part of the world, it seems like one of the biggest needs is to rest and be replenished, as those who provide care are lonely, tired, and stretched. (BTW, if you want to support these consultations a few thousand dollars a year gets spread among people who are working for next to nothing meeting needs that are as big as anything, allowing them to gather and care for and consult with one another.)
 
So, there we were in the mountains of Thailand, and unseasonably it rained all week. When I say all week, literally it just kept raining all the time day after day. I grew up part of the time in the tropics and I've never seen it rain that way. Other people were also saying it was very unusual. Our daughter Sarah joined the consultation also as she has a keen interest in counseling in the chinese world, a motivation for the phd studies in counseling psychology she has started at Texas A&M. This morning the rain was barely stopped when Sarah and our friend Justine said, "Let's go see the elephants." Just down the road from us was a training camp for elephants that included some 28 including two new babies. Sarah actually had one of these babies approach her making fr a most heart-stopping picture. The mama elephant seemed unconcerned! Pictures hopefully to be posted on facebook and/or picasa!
 
Anyway, the result of the rain was that we were all forced to stay put and do very little--except meet with and care for one another. Laura and I found our Chinese stretched all week long, but fortunately we also had some willing and flexible translators, so that we spent most of the week with languages going all the time. Rather than having everything repeated, we usually had people that needed it getting translation from their neighbors, and we had small groups where people could operate in their preferred language--mostly, anyway.
 
I say all this to give you the flavor of this gathering. Unfortunately for Laura and I, it was also a reminder that we have left the Chinese world and are now more outsiders than ever. On the other hand, there were definitely invitations for us to come alongside for encouragement and consultation onsite in some of the major cities of our world where brothers and sisters are loving those around them through caregiving, coaching, and counseling. What do you think? Should this be a part of our minstry in the days ahead?
 
I have to tell you that it is still not comfortable for us to operate in Chinese. We miss a lot of what is said, and our own speech is even more limited. Translation is a great gift, but it is also a reminder of the barriers that language and culture place in the midst of our world and the communication of unselfish love in it. All the same, there are a lot of brothers and sisters for whom Chinese is the language of their hearts.
 
Right now we are waiting for the hours to pass so we can get on an airplane and wait for more hours to pass (while someone else stays awake and flies, of course!) We are in Singapore now, where we ventured into the city for the first time earlier tonight. Our route back takes us over the great circle route via Moscow to Houston, where we plan to spend a week before driving back to Colorado.
 
If ths doesn't make total sense, you can attribute it to writing in the middle of the night--but that would be the middle of the day if you're in the Americas, where we hope to be in another 28 hours or so.
 
Do keep us in mind as we continue to "flesh out" what it means to be a 'global care consultant" for TEAM, and ask that we be able to make significant differences one day and one conversation at a time.
 
Back on the far side for now, Steve and Laura
 
*"King" is a play on words. If you know Thailand, you know that their king is beloved by the people of Thailand in a way that is no longer usual in our world. What an example with eternal implications, eh?

Steve and Laura Spinella
9685 Otero Ave, Colorado Springs, CO 80920
719.528.1702, cell 719.355.4809, Laura cell 832.755.4261
TEAM, PO Box 969, Wheaton, IL 60187, 800 343-3144
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Wednesday, January 26, 2011

[TEAMspinella] Buried in the deepest sea

When I was a kid, I think that referred to iniquity. I'm re-purposing that here. The transition model is in some ways a bit like a resurrection model--you disengage, say your goodbyes as best you can, enter the chaos, and hope to emerge on the other side in a new role in a new place. (I think Star Trek had some other terms for this!) 

We sought to do the leaving well in Taiwan, and now we have left. Somehow I think I underestimated the symmetry of that transition model! (Wonder what I'm talking about? I've put an extended quote from Ron and Bonnie Koteskey's reentry manual at the end of this email.) To make a long story short, we are in the re-entry or re-acculturation process, and we don't know when we'll come out! We are committed to listening, learning, waiting, and wondering as we continue our transition journey.

There have been a few surprises. Laura has been the aggressive cultural entry person--she's been making multiple connections every week. I on the other hand have withdrawn more. I spend most of my time alone researching, thinking, and occasionally writing. I have not contacted very many friends and do not know what community here I will really join.

We are living with Laura's parents, and,as her dad Bob says, "we'll see how it works out." We don't really know whether this is a longer term solution or a short term bridge until we either move back into our old house or find a third option. I have started my new role as a "global care consultant" with TEAM and we have some travel ahead in February and March. 

In February, we'll be taking a big car trip, touching Wisconsin on Super Bowl weekend and heading to Houston for a sending church conference after a few days at TEAM's international HQ in Illinois. In March we are heading back to Asia for a consultation on Counseling in the Chinese World. Unfortunately, CCW is in Thailand this year, not Taiwan.

Life is good--and even sometimes a little exciting, but there is still a lot of transitioning going on around here. And somehow we're just not ready to talk too much about life in Colorado just yet!

Thanks for listening, Steve and Laura
(not so very far away from some of you and a good bit further away from others!) 

_______________________
"The "in between" stage begins when the missionaries leave for the airport and ends when they unpack their minds, not their suitcases. During this time they are without status, structure, and perhaps even keys. In this time of chaos they may feel overwhelmed and isolated, as well as exaggerating their problems. Their self-esteem may drop and they may become anxious over the future and grieving over their losses in the recent past.

"The "entering" stage begins when the missionaries have unpacked their minds and continues until the missionaries have re-engaged with their passport culture. During this time they realize that they are marginal persons and are in rather superficial, tentative relationships. Reentering missionaries may misinterpret verbal and nonverbal behaviors and make errors in responding. They may feel vulnerable, fearful, and may be easily offended. They may find it difficult to trust people and even experience depression. Some experience a "honeymoon" period immediately after they reenter when everything is seen through rose-colored glasses. Then this may be followed by a period of disillusionment when everything is viewed through rust-colored glasses so that they notice materialism and superficiality in their home culture....This entering stage may take only a few months, or a year (a full annual cycle), or never be completed. [Koteskey]"
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Steve and Laura Spinella
9685 Otero Ave, Colorado Springs, CO 80920
719.528.1702, cell 719.355.4809, Laura cell 832.755.4261
TEAM, PO Box 969, Wheaton, IL 60187, 800 343-3144
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